You are a struggling male
Overcoming an addiction to (or dependence on) pornography is a process. Depending on the severity of the exposure, each person may require a different path to freedom, healing, and sobriety. Fr. Sean Kilcawley with Integrity Restored explains it like a “care funnel.” The first step, or wide end of the funnel, is admitting you need help and going to confession. From there, most people find the best results by working their way through a combination of treatment approaches, starting with personal accountability, recovery groups, and spiritual direction as they progress through the smaller funnel toward more intense treatment programs, if needed.
Here are some suggestions to help you on your journey:
Usable on any device, the Fortify app is accountability and includes a personalized “battle tracker” to learn about one’s own weaknesses, a personalized plan to combat these weaknesses, progress tracking, video lessons, webinars and more.
App developed by LifeTeen. The Victory app provides a strategic battle plan for liberty in the struggle against pornography. Accountability includes an in-app “prayer request” button to instantly message your accountability partners. Plus a daily tracker, daily check in, and inspirational content.
Personal Accountability Programs
“Strive21” Challenge by Matt Fradd
This is a 21-day digital porn detox. Participants receive daily videos that walk a person (starting with men, but releasing a version for women later on) through the process of stopping, identifying triggers, avoiding them, and then finding healthier habits, focusing on virtues, finding accountability, and toward the end entry into small groups, spiritual direction, counseling and therapy. So it’s not just a 21 day fix, it’s also a “now what” and how to stay “sober.” They say it’s a springboard and a starting point. Not a cure. It helps men live a life as a beloved son, father, husband, friend, etc.
Cost: Typically the cost is $50, however for a limited time, this tool is FREE!!
“The 40 Day Email Challenge” app by Covenant Eyes
The 40 Day Challenge is a focused, step-by-step email series designed to help you put porn behind you forever. Each day, you’ll receive an email with:
- Articles that will educate you and encourage you on the road to freedom
- Exclusive video content
Practical action steps to retrain your brain. And more! Cost: FREE
Online recovery programs
Reclaim: God’s Plan for Sexual Health
RECLAiM Sexual Health offers a science-based, Catholic online recovery program and other resources for those who desire to reclaim God’s plan for their lives and the lives of loved ones impacted by pornography or other unhealthy sexual behaviors.
Integrity Restored is a Catholic apostolate that provides education, training, encouragement, and resources to break free from pornography, heal relationships, and to assist parents in preventing and responding to pornography exposure which is so devastating in the lives of our children. The website has an online 7 Step Plan to overcoming pornography developed by Dr. Peter Kleponis.
Face to face groups
Catholic in Recovery groups
The Diocese of Owensboro Office of Marriage & Family Life will be sponsoring Catholic in Recovery groups across the Diocese. Contact the Office of Marriage & Family Life for details.
Sexaholics Anonymous is a recovery program based on the principles of Alcoholics Anonymous that received permission from AA to use its Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions in 1979. SA is a fellowship of men and women who desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober. SA is not allied with any sect, denomination, politics, organization, or institution; does not wish to engage in any controversy; neither endorses nor opposes any causes. Our primary purpose is to stay sexually sober and help others to achieve sexual sobriety.
According SA.org, there are face-to-face meetings in Bowling Green, Henderson, Paducah, and Owensboro.
There are also phone-in meetings available through SA.org.
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to. Spiritual direction with a trained director can help us encounter the movements of God in our lives. There are several spiritual directors ready to meet with clients in Diocese of Owensboro. Contact the Office of Marriage & Family Life for details.
The Diocese of Owensboro offers a Congregation Assistance Program to provide parishioners with short term counseling. Catholic Charities and most parishes supplement a reduced rate for counselors who are in our network through Catholic Charities. Find a list of those counselors here.
Certified Sexual Addictions Therapist (CSAT)
For cases where more focused counseling pertaining to sexual addictions is required, there is a Certified Sexual Addictions Therapist (CSAT) available in our diocese as well. Contact Ethan Bennett, LPCC, CSAT candidate, EMDR Therapist with Abba Healing Services at 270-297-9192.
Bethesda Workshops in Nashville offers Christian healing retreats for men, women, partners of addicts, parents of teens who are acting out, and couples.
“Bethesda truly is a place for healing. We never thought we’d find the serenity and peace we have now in our marriage. As a recovering sex/porn addict and spouse, we now know that we are not alone in this struggle and that there is redemption to be found in the pain and suffering of addiction. The information and resources we each received on our intensive weekends have been invaluable not just to us, but to our children, family and friends. Our lives will never be the same. Thanks be to God!”
– Parishioners in the Diocese of Owensboro
The Diocese of Kansas City, Kansas hosts “My House” intensive retreats several times a year.
John Paul II Healing Center in Tallahassee, FL offers several healing retreats. Some are held in different areas around the country. They also have workbooks you could work through on your own for self-reflection available in their online store.